Valentine’s Day with My Sister

Valentine’s Day has never been anything that I was super into. I still stick to the belief that it’s a HUGE waste of money. It is all very kitsh-y, but honestly that is completely fine! Last Valentine’s Day, my fiance and I celebrated by getting super dressed up, eating at our favorite taco spot and then getting some drinks and dessert. It was nice, nothing too crazy but it was still sweet.

We got each other gifts but decided we were not going to go all out.

I got him an organic, fair-trade chocolate bar with spices (think Mexican chocolate bar) and a mug that says “Give me coffee and tell me I’m pretty” (which he loves).

He got me an awesome vegetarian cook book and a fair trade, organic chocolate bar that had potato chips! (we tend to think alike)

We didn’t go all out but it was still such an amazing Valentine’s Day.

Well, this Valentine’s Day I won’t be able to celebrate with Jacob, so to celebrate I’m going to do some fun stuff with my sister. We’re going to make some sweets, do a little shopping and do some wedding planning as well.


I highly advise celebrating Valentine’s Day with your loved ones such as your mother, siblings and pets. My mother loves giving my siblings and I little bears, cups or flowers.

I would love to hear all of your Valentine’s Day plans and any fun gifts that you’re planning on giving!

Love,

Must-Read Relationship Advice Books $13 and Under

Hello!

This post is about some great books that Jacob and I have read in the last couple of months.

Jacob is an active reader (which I am trying to be like) and I’m jealous! If you read my New Years post then you know that I am trying to be better with my reading!

We decided that we needed to read some books that’ll help us in our journey with God and with our marriage. Obviously there are plenty of books that you can read but these are some that have touched my heart. (They are in no particular order) Click the title of the book so you can order one on Amazon!

Book 1: Love That Lasts

This book is awesome! It’s written by Jefferson and Alyssa Bethke. They’re a sweet couple that is extremely relatable and makes relationships easy to understand. They alternate chapters, one will be Jefferson and the next will be Alyssa, which is refreshing to hear both of them speak in a clear way. They titled each chapter a popular love song title, for example “Where is the Love” and “Fake Love”. What I liked most about this book was that they were real with the struggles they faced being Christian and in a relationship. Lets face it, there are things that are acceptable for couples to do in our society that are not acceptable in the eyes of God. Trying to navigate through those struggles can be difficult and stressful. I highly recommend this book to those in a relationship and possibly looking to become engaged and take the next step. Also, this book is only 12$ on Amazon and 9.99$ for kindle!




Book 2: Single, Dating, Engaged, Married: Navigating Life and Love in the Modern Age 

Again, another great book. It goes through each season of our lives, single, dating, engaged and married and helps you to navigate in each! What I love most about this book is Stuart starts first with the most important relationship that we have, the one with God.

Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. – 1 John 4:7

Singleness should be all about devotion. Dating is about evaluation. Engaged is about unification and married life is all about the mission. This is definitely a must read and it’s nice to know that Jacob and I are not the only ones trying to navigate life with God being in the center. Also, this book is only $12!

 

Book 3: Things that I wish I’d known Before I Got Married

The infamous Gary Chapman ladies and gentlemen. His book The 5 Love Languages is awesome and this one is as well. Gary has really helped myself and Jacob find out what our love languages are. I cannot stress the importance of this enough. Jacob’s love language is different from mine and it’s nice to know that we both realize that. My love language is quality time, I love nothing more than wearing sweats, drinking tea or wine and just watching movies. Other love languages are physical touch and receiving gifts. This book not only talks about real issues such as apologizing to your partner even when you don’t want to or solving disagreements without arguing, it also has questions after every chapter for you to reflect on. I think it is important to have an honest conversation with your partner about how you want to be treated or loved. This book is also 12$ on Amazon!

I know there are plenty of relationship advice books that you and I can read, but these are some that I absolutely loved. Click the titles and order them!

If you read them let me know, I would love to talk about it. If you have any other books that has really touched your heart I would love to hear about those also!

Love,

 

 

How we stay connected

       Currently Jacob and I are working on a semi-long distance relationship, given, we do see each other on the weekends, but even that is difficult. It’s really hard, at least for me, to go on throughout the week without him. But we have come up with some ways to stay connected throughout this distance and I’m going to share them with you!

  • Phone Calls
    • This is an obvious one but I think it still needs to be addressed. Jacob and I call each other every chance we get. Waking up in the morning, on our way to work, during our breaks, leaving work and we ensure we have FaceTime dates at night. Honestly, sometimes this can be just a tad bit annoying. For example, I might get busy with something and start stressing out and answering the phone isn’t really something I want to do, BUT after our phone calls I always feel so much better. They are definitely worth it.
  • Audio messages
    • When Jacob and I cannot talk over the phone I leave audio messages and he always receives a lot of those! I have learned that audio messages are extremely beneficial to both our relationship but also for me. It’s like a diary, I tell him what I’m thinking, what has happened to me and everything in between. It is very therapeutic. 
  • Nightly devotionals 
    • This is definitely the most important one. I think it is extremely important that Jacob and I push each other to be better Christians and do devotionals together. So at the end of our FaceTime dates, before we say goodnight, I bring out my devotion journal and my nightstand Bible. We read the devotion and reflect on what the message was.  I think this is crucial to being closer and maintaining our relationship.

Semi-long distance is not fun, I will be the first to say it, but it’s important to work through it and put in a lot of effort! 

If you have any tips or advice I would love to hear all about it!

Have a great day, 

Love,